Speaking and Vulnerability
(Research, Step 9 (final), continually updated as progress continues)
Content/Clippings about PTSD coming soon. It's very informative, and it's updated often.
Support is always welcomed and encouraged.
Here are examples taken from websites, and Research Study.
The helping RESOURCE.
Taking time to learn and understand will show the difference between "it" and "me"
I am alive. It, is cured...
A very interesting set of articles. Any support is welcome and encouraged, it must be done with kindness, understanding, and compassion.
Be warm, to know a damaged soul, it takes a strong soul. There is a lot of information on here, please do take time.
"Pts "d" is an injury of the heart and mind". Learning to be soft and as well strong is important to understanding ptsd.
This is the best kind growth, the more we know.
4 TIPS on How to Help Someone with PTSD
This might be the most important one.
"Don't take it personally. This might be very hard to do, but literally, it has nothing to do with you."
This blog is beautiful, truly. It's also kind of funny. It is written from the point of view of a person who knows someone with PTSD.
It's around the end/middle-ish.
I know a lot of these articles/examples are being taken to extremes in some cases. Just remember that it is different for everyone,and these are only examples, not a "one for one".
And the people/person you may know that has ptsd could be applying other factors that contribute to their actually personality.
Some people do blame others for their trauma, and their own life events,
especially if it's a personal trauma or family oriented.
Most survivors do not blame anybody for their own trauma.
It's the person who feels "it", not the person.
It has nothing to do with the other person,
Understanding PTSD's Effects on Brain, Body, and Emotions | Janet Seahorn | TEDxCSU
It can be cured. The cycle can be broken.
(Tacky and a bit long, but good info, watch till end. There is a silver lining)
Side note: This will be edited as time goes on.
PTSD, a silent battle | Meg Rintoul | TEDxTownsville
This one is a little sad, but very very good, and well said.
The ending it the best
Side note: I don't know what a "40" is in Australia. I hope she isn't talking about "drinking a 40 with the kids". That would be weird and I don't think that counts as a good parent. Further, to close your eyes and sleep next to someone in complete peace, this is a kind of trust most will never understand or see how much it takes to do, especially for a trauma survivor. However, it happens, and you do it because you feel safe. You do it because you found trust, and that is hard on the mind of a person with trauma.... It is hard to let go of that safety...
Parents Explain PTSD to Their Kids.
Hearing people talking about it with their own voice is different that reading about it. Although the injury can't be seen, it is incredibly real.
Trauma and the Brain
(Survival Brain and the science behind it. Very cool and interesting)
(Talks about symptoms. Most of it applies, BUT not ALL, please know which ones)
This isn't a one for one, just an general overview. The article makes the symptoms sound a little intense or daunting, but it's different for each person.
It might not be as severe or even there at all.
https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Partener-About-PTSD (Very Very interesting)
http://www.new-synapse.com/aps/wordpress/?p=741 (50 ways PTSD undermines relationships, family, friends, and intimacy)
Trained Not to Cry: The Challenge of Being a Soldier | Richard Doss
Our Lonely Society Makes It Hard to Come Home From War By Sebastian Junger https://www.ted.com/talks/sebastian_junger_our_lonely_society_makes_it_hard_to_come_home_from_war/transcript
David Lynch Foundation - Sounds of Trauma https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgpRw92d1MA
41-truths-people-with-ptsd-wish-others-understood (Link Here) 3, 12, 17, 13, 25, 30, 33, 41
A very close and important person to me once said "at times I feel like you hate me"
The absolute bottom line is this...
It can be cured, and "it" can change, the person doesn't not need to...
And do also know, it is possible to live a normal life. It was done before these symptoms happened and will be so afterwords. These are recent symptoms.
It can take week, months, years and particular circumstances to happen and develop. Going to shows, movies, traveling, jobs and so on can still be done, were done, and will be done.
It's never gets so debilitating that one can not function in society. It only happens at very certain moments, and in times of vulnerability.
Yes, sometimes it can get worse as security falls way and the closer you get to people, but it does break, it is about getting through the storm first.
It doesn't mean it happens all of the time, and it doesn't mean it will not last forever....
85%ish (if there was a number on it....)
It's been hard, but it will be done.
It can be cured.
four rules and things to know about ptsd
1. The fist and quite possibly the most important rule is to not take the symptoms of ptsd personally. This will be an incredibly difficult thing to do, but it is a must. The trauma and symptoms in the resulting injury have nothing to do with those around you. It's an injury to the heart that affects the heart directly and the emotions of a survivor. This is the injury at its core. The unfortunate distinction in ptsd is that the injury may take weeks, months, and even years to manifest a wound and resulting symptoms. Please do note that not all anger and frustration are directed outwardly. Most of the time it's directed inward, as anger and frustration is internalized, because of the inability to talk about the trauma to begin with, the symptoms of frustration is only within oneself.
2. Ptsd is not a the identity of the survivor. Rather it's the symptoms and result of very traumatic events. This should and must be understood. Remember ptsd is a normal response to abnormal events, and it is important that the injury and the person with it be separated. Like any injury, it can be healed and thus cured.
3. Learn as much as you can. Survivors of trauma can't and won't talk about "it". This is the paradox of it, and what makes ptsd so devastating. This is something the survivor wants to talk about desperately, but it's so bad, that the survivor cannot. It is a wound and it has symptoms that are very very real. And what is worst of all, it cannot be seen, it can't be touched, it has no smell, and it is the only wound on the human body that will not heal on it's own. Learn about them and their injury. It will help in understanding them and who they truly are. It will subside confusion, and it will help with with understanding their trueness. If you are the friend, family member, or partner of a trauma survivor, you must learn all that you can. The survivor will not talk about "it" nor will the injury let them, they can't. Post-traumatic-stress-injury, won't let survivors open up. This is the paradox of trauma.
4. (coming soon)...
Trauma survivors would like those to know how much it must have taken to be a part of our lives. I personally can only begin to imagine what it was like to care about someone and feel the way that you do. I can only imagine what it is like to see someone tear themselves apart right in front of your eyes. It's impossible to explain how we can't apologized for "it", as "it" is not our identity, and our injury is not us. It takes very strong people to hold on. It also takes a heart just as big as the heart of the survivor's to understand, especially to love a survivor. If there is anything that I personally would want anybody who knows a survivor of trauma to understand, it's that deep down inside, past the storm we are currently in, we care, and you are appreciated. You are the light that guides that ship that may be sinking at times. It may be at times hard to see through the storm, and to see the person, as it is fierce and self-destructive, but we are there. It might be hard to see at times, but if you look past the storm and the injury you will see a person. A person who does indeed care about you, trust you, and respect you. And although it may not seem like it at times, especially when we feel vulnerable with you, you are important to us. We unknowing trigger ourselves with you because we know you can be trusted deep down inside. We do it because you are in our heart and thoughts. It is exactly the place where ptsd lives and where "it" is trying to distance the real us from the vulnerability felt with you. It is because you are someone we do indeed care for and have a vulnerable with, that causes us to be scared and thus unknowingly triggered. I will say personally, from my own experience and from my heart say, that I am sorry for anyway it made the people that I cared for and about in my life feel. This is not me however, nor my true feelings.
Just do know, we, as survivors, never at any time hate you... And I personally would like to say I am sorry if people feel that way, and if anyone misunderstands how, our identity, and I, truly feel.
The Condition of Image Making in the Post-Photographic Era.
How Unfinished Works Play a Role in Contemporary Art.
Works of collaboration/The Unmade Readymade/ Works of Projection
Heidegger article on “Origin of the Work of Art”
Robert Longo, contemporary American visual artist known for his “Men in the Cities”
Marcel Duchamp 1968 BBC Interview
Susan Sontag “On Photography”
Sophie Calle on becoming an artist SFMOMA interview
Ed Ruscha “The Tension of Words and Images” TATEshots
Sandy Skoglund essay by Marvin Heiferman