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Speaking and Vulnerability  

(Research, Step 9 (final), continually updated as progress continues)


Content/Clippings about PTSD coming soon. It's very informative, and it's updated often.

Support is always welcomed and encouraged. 

Here are examples taken from websites, and Research Study.

The helping RESOURCE.

 

Taking time to learn and understand will show the difference between "it" and "me"

I am alive. It, is cured...

A very interesting set of articles. Any support is welcome and encouraged, it must be done with  kindness, understanding, and compassion.

Be warm, to know a damaged soul, it takes a strong soul. There is a lot of information on here, please do take time. 

"Pts "d" is an injury of the heart and mind". Learning to be soft and as well strong is important to understanding ptsd.

This is the best kind growth, the more we know. 

Learning strength...


4 TIPS on How to Help Someone with PTSD

This might be the most important one.

"Don't take it personally. This might be very hard to do, but literally, it has nothing to do with you."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X_A6SrvfbUI&index=104&list=WL 

 


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 This blog is beautiful, truly. It's also kind of funny. It is written from the point of view of a person who knows someone with PTSD. 

It's around the end/middle-ish. 

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Not to sound funny or disrespectful here, but it was kind of like breaking a horse.
It’s still psychology. They fight until they wear out then you can ride them and teach them,
you just have to hold on tight until you get to that point of settling down and learning.
— Rebecca
-It goes back to what I always say, stop, listen, and really hear what is being said.-

I had the tools to break the arguing cycle Again, I (Rebecca), was the one who had to,
because Craig could not, there was no real balance within himself for him to.
Now lol, I won’t say it was easy, it took time, patience, listening, not taking things personally
but recognizing it was PTSD causing this,
and the hold my ground in a gentle caring way.
— Rebecca
And I was fighting back, I am a very strong and level headed southern lady
who knows how to stand on my own two feet,
and I was not going to stand for this attitude coming at me.
— Rebecca

Sounds familiar...

http://aspousesstoryptsd.com/blog/?p=1173 

I know a lot of these articles/examples are being taken to extremes in some cases. Just remember that it is different for everyone,and these are only examples, not a "one for one". 

And the people/person you may know that has ptsd could be applying other factors that contribute to their actually personality.

Some people do blame others for their trauma, and their own life events,

especially if it's a personal trauma or family oriented.

Most survivors do not blame anybody for their own trauma.

It's the person who feels "it", not the person. 

It has nothing to do with the other person,

nothing...


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Understanding PTSD's Effects on Brain, Body, and Emotions | Janet Seahorn | TEDxCSU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BEHDQeIRTgs&index=90&list=WL&t=0s

It can be cured. The cycle can be broken. 

(Tacky and a bit long, but good info, watch till end. There is a silver lining)

Side note: This will be edited as time goes on.


PTSD, a silent battle | Meg Rintoul | TEDxTownsville

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gufGY5omNlY&list=WL&index=84

This one is a little sad, but very very good, and well said. 

The ending it the best 

I want you to imagine this, when a soldier start experiencing ptsd, they reach out for
help, There is no stigma, and instead of reaching for that bottle, they reach down,
grab a 40, and kick it with their kids. Or that you can actually roll over and hug that
person you love and close your eyes and sleep in peace.
Injuries can heal
— Meg Rintoul

Side note: I don't know what a "40" is in Australia. I hope she isn't talking about "drinking a 40 with the kids". That would be weird and I don't think that counts as a good parent. Further, to close your eyes and sleep next to someone in complete peace, this is a kind of trust most will never understand or see how much it takes to do, especially  for a trauma survivor. However, it happens, and you do it because you feel safe. You do it because you found trust, and that is hard on the mind of a person with trauma.... It is hard to let go of that safety...


Parents Explain PTSD to Their Kids.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LA0hXS58oXY   

(Short 6min)

Hearing people talking about it with their own voice is different that reading about it. Although the injury can't be seen, it is incredibly real.


Trauma and the Brain 

(Survival Brain and the science behind it. Very cool and interesting)  

http://www.nhslanarkshire.org.uk/Services/EVA%20Services/Pages/trauma-and-the-brain.aspx (Short 8:40min)


https://www.rd.com/health/conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/  

(Talks about symptoms. Most of it applies, BUT not ALL, please know which ones) 

This isn't a one for one, just an general overview. The article makes the symptoms sound a little intense or daunting, but it's different for each person. 

It might not be as severe or even there at all. 


General Information 

https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Friends-About-Your-PTSD

https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Partener-About-PTSD  (Very Very interesting)

https://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/family

http://www.new-synapse.com/aps/wordpress/?p=741   (50 ways PTSD undermines relationships, family, friends, and intimacy)

Videos

Trained Not to Cry: The Challenge of Being a Soldier | Richard Doss

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkCq6BWFBAM

Our Lonely Society Makes It Hard to Come Home From War By Sebastian Junger https://www.ted.com/talks/sebastian_junger_our_lonely_society_makes_it_hard_to_come_home_from_war/transcript

Common Triggers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_1JqMWjxcg

David Lynch Foundation - Sounds of Trauma https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgpRw92d1MA

41-truths-people-with-ptsd-wish-others-understood (Link Here)  3, 12, 17, 13, 25, 30, 33, 41

 


A very close and important person to me once said "at times I feel like you hate me"

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It’s the PTSD talking, not your partner!
One with ptsd seems to take things out on the one they love most, are the closest to,
most comfortable with, and most of all the one they trust.”

”It is not the true them...

The absolute bottom line is this...

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It can be cured, and "it" can change, the person doesn't not need to...

And do also know, it is possible to live a normal life. It was done before these symptoms happened and will be so afterwords. These are recent symptoms.

It can take week, months, years and particular circumstances to happen and develop. Going to shows, movies, traveling, jobs and so on can still be done, were done, and will be done.

It's never gets so debilitating that one can not function in society. It only happens at very certain moments, and in times of vulnerability.

Yes, sometimes it can get worse as security falls way and the closer you get to people, but it does break, it is about getting through the storm first.

It doesn't mean it happens all of the time, and it doesn't mean it will not last forever.... 

85%ish (if there was a number on it....)

It's been hard, but it will be done.

It can be cured.

 

 

Believe....



four rules and things to know about ptsd

1. The fist and quite possibly the most important rule is to not take the symptoms of ptsd personally. This will be an incredibly difficult thing to do, but it is a must. The trauma and symptoms in the resulting injury have nothing to do with those around you. It's an injury to the heart that affects the heart directly and the emotions of a survivor. This is the injury at its core.  The unfortunate distinction in ptsd is that the injury may take weeks, months, and even years to manifest a wound and resulting symptoms. Please do note that not all anger and frustration are directed outwardly. Most of the time it's directed inward, as anger and frustration is internalized, because of the inability to talk about the trauma to begin with, the symptoms of frustration is only within oneself.  

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-may not not have control-
-the nervous system is “stuck”
-making them feel vulnerable and unsafe-
-Can’t choose to turn off-
-can become “unstuck-“

2. Ptsd is not a the identity of the survivor. Rather it's the symptoms and result of very traumatic events. This should and must be understood. Remember ptsd is a normal response to abnormal events, and it is important that the injury and the person with it be separated. Like any injury, it can be healed and thus cured. 

3. Learn as much as you can. Survivors of trauma can't and won't talk about "it". This is the paradox of it, and what makes ptsd so devastating.  This is something the survivor wants to talk about desperately, but it's so bad, that the survivor cannot. It is a wound and it has symptoms that are very very real. And what is worst of all, it cannot be seen, it can't be touched, it has no smell, and it is the only wound on the human body that will not heal on it's own. Learn about them and their injury. It will help in understanding them and who they truly are. It will subside confusion, and it will help with with understanding their trueness. If you are the friend, family member, or partner of a trauma survivor, you must learn all that you can. The survivor will not talk about "it" nor will the injury let them, they can't. Post-traumatic-stress-injury, won't let survivors open up. This is the paradox of trauma.

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4. (coming soon)...


Seeing the extremes of the world gives trauma survivors a vigorous sense of compassion.
In many ways this is their received wisdom and what makes them uniquely uncommon.
Seeing the ends of the earth is what allows them to see how beautiful it is and can be...
They respect the sunrise and the sunset because everyday is special, because every breath matters.
This is what gives them the worlds biggest heart, and to speak so vividly of it. 
They are incredibly real souls, the likes of which most people will never know.
They will speak openly and passionately from their heart,
as this is the only way they know how to live...
— Judith Goodwin

Trauma survivors would like those to know how much it must have taken to be a part of our lives. I personally can only begin to imagine what it was like to care about someone and feel the way that you do. I can only imagine what it is like to see someone tear themselves apart right in front of your eyes. It's impossible to explain how we can't apologized for "it", as "it" is not our identity, and our injury is not us. It takes very strong people to hold on. It also takes a heart just as big as the heart of the survivor's to understand, especially to love a survivor. If there is anything that I personally would want anybody who knows a survivor of trauma to understand, it's that deep down inside, past the storm we are currently in, we care, and you are appreciated. You are the light that guides that ship that may be sinking at times. It may be at times hard to see through the storm, and to see the person, as it is fierce and self-destructive, but we are there. It might be hard to see at times, but if you look past the storm and the injury you will see a person. A person who does indeed care about you, trust you, and respect you. And although it may not seem like it at times, especially when we feel vulnerable with you, you are important to us. We unknowing trigger ourselves with you because we know you can be trusted deep down inside. We do it because you are in our heart and thoughts. It is exactly the place where ptsd lives and where "it" is trying to distance the real us from the vulnerability felt with you. It is because you are someone we do indeed care for and have a vulnerable with, that causes us to be scared and thus unknowingly triggered. I will say personally, from my own experience and from my heart say, that I am sorry for anyway it made the people that I cared for and about in my life feel. This is not me however, nor my true feelings.

Just do know, we, as survivors, never at any time hate you... And I personally would like to say I am sorry if people feel that way, and if anyone misunderstands how, our identity, and I, truly feel. 


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art

The Condition of Image Making in the Post-Photographic Era. 

http://faculty.georgetown.edu/irvinem/theory/Sonesson-PostPhoto.pdf

How Unfinished Works Play a Role in Contemporary Art.

http://www.npr.org/2016/07/19/486605183/mets-unfinished-exhibit-offers-a-glimpse-of-the-artistic-mind-at-work

Works of collaboration/The Unmade Readymade/ Works of Projection  

www.victoria-heuston.squarespace.com

Heidegger article on “Origin of the Work of Art”

http://users.clas.ufl.edu/burt/filmphilology/heideggerworkofart.pdf

Robert Longo, contemporary American visual artist known for his “Men in the Cities”

http://www.robertlongo.com

Marcel Duchamp 1968 BBC Interview

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bwk7wFdC76Y

Susan Sontag “On Photography”

http://www.susansontag.com/SusanSontag/books/onPhotography.shtml

Sophie Calle on becoming an artist SFMOMA interview  

https://www.sfmoma.org/watch/sophie-calle-on-becoming-an-artist/

Ed Ruscha “The Tension of Words and Images” TATEshots

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HoNePbo9DD0 

Sandy Skoglund essay by Marvin Heiferman

http://www.sandyskoglund.com/pages/published/pages_publish/marvin2.html